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Ruth Rubylee (Pointer) Findlay

June 19, 1931 ~ October 14, 2019 (age 88)

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Ruth Rubylee Findlay, 88, of New Haven, Missouri, passed away on October 14, 2019, at Mercy Hospital, Washington, Missouri.

Ruth was born on June 19, 1931, in New Haven, Missouri, a daughter of Henry & Luella (Schultz) Pointer.

She was united in marriage to John Amos Findlay on November 20, 1975, St. Peter’s U.C.C., New Haven.  John preceded her in death on November 22, 2017.

Together, Ruth and John, enjoyed antiquing and restoring furniture in their free time. This developed into a business, first run out of their home, and later located in Hermann.  She also worked at one time for Langenberg Hat Factory and also at Maczuk's in the office. Ruth was a member of the New Haven United Methodist Church.

Ruth will be most remembered for her devotion to her family. She enjoyed spending time with her children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, sister, nieces, and nephews and was always there to lend a helping hand making sure everyone was well cared for. She developed a nickname with her grandchildren, as many grandmothers do, becoming known as the “cookie grandma”. She continued throughout her later years to make everyone’s favorite cookies for holidays and birthdays. One of her favorite topics of conversation was to share stories about the great-grandchildren’s visits. She always made sure to have a ready supply of toys and snacks for them. Ruth was treasured by her family and friends and will be missed by all.

She is survived by a daughter, Donna LaBruyere & husband Bud, of Hermann; a son, Bill Maczuk & wife Diane, of New Haven; a step-son, John Findlay, of New Haven, by step-daughters, Linda Findlay, of Marshfield, Missouri; Kim Findlay, of Springfield, Missouri; Jenny White & husband John, of Eldon, Missouri; and Cathy Findlay, of Marshfield, Missouri; by her grandchildren, Chet LaBruyere; Kurt LaBruyere & wife Nicky; Dustin Maczuk & wife Rachele; Megan Maczuk & husband Scott, by great-grandchildren, Mason LaBruyere, Adlee, Paxton, Grayden, and Sayla LaBruyere, James, Julianne, and JennaClaire Maczuk, and Helaina Buhr, by nieces, Carrol Hagstrom, Lola Parris, Dianne Baum, Valerie Frerking, Nancy Porter, Joan Hays, Joyce Shepherd, Judy Payne, and Sue Heesch, and nephews David Kilgore and Michael Maczuk.

She is preceded in death by her husband, John Findlay, a step-son, William Findlay, her parents, two sisters Veatrice Kilgore and Laverne Pointer, and nephews Gary & Jeff Kilgore.

Visitation will be held Thursday, October 17th from 4:00 to 8:00 p.m. at Toedtmann & Grosse Funeral Home, New Haven, where funeral services will be held Friday at 10:00 a.m., with Pastor Doug Booth officiating.  

Burial will be at St. John's Cemetery, Berger, MO.  Memorials may be given to New Haven United Methodist Church or St. John's Cemetery.  C/O Toedtmann & Grosse Funeral Home.

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October 17, 2019

4:00 PM to 8:00 PM
Toedtmann-Grosse Funeral Home
1053 Hwy C
New Haven, MO 63068

Funeral Service
October 18, 2019

10:00 AM
Toedtmann-Grosse Funeral Home
1053 Hwy C
New Haven, MO 63068

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